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Alex wrote:

I’ve been dating a guy for almost a year now and we just recently have started arguing.  It’s been getting worse and worse and now I discovered he’s been texting his ex girlfriend after every argument.  When I confronted him, he broke down and said he’d only been looking from advice from her, but it appears to me as if he’s looking for pity sex from her.  He was trashing me as much as he could to her.  Do you think he’s cheating?  Is this worth fixing?


Cheating or not, it’s time to move on.  If your boyfriend is trashing you to his ex and apparently looking for pity sex from her, all of the excuses in the world aren’t going to change how your perception of things has changed.  My only question for you is, has he been texting her the whole time or did this just start around the time you started arguing?  It may not even be worth investigating, but it is something to think about.  If it just started, it may be because he is developing feelings for her and is torn between how he feels about you and how he feels about her.  If it’s been going on the whole time, he was never into you.  Either way, it’s time you close the door on this relationship.