A slap in the face with a hand grenade.

custom grenade
Pull pin, count to three, throw grenade.

Julie wrote:

Sean,

I like your blog, but how can you be so optimistic about love when you’ve been hurt before?  I was engaged to be married once, and we were almost to the wedding day when he suddenly breaks things off and tells me he’s in love with someone else.  After him, I eventually fell in love with another guy, and he also decided after a year, that he didn’t love me enough to be in a relationship with me.  He could have sex with me, but he “said he loved me like a sister”.  Creepy, I know.  I don’t know if I’ll ever find love.  So how do you remain so optimistic when it seems like more and more people are alone these days?  Are you actually optimistic or just blind to suffering?

Julie

 

Julie,

Heartbreak can come suddenly and it often lands with the subtlety of a slap in the face with a hand grenade.  In an instant, your world can be totally wrecked and you’re left to pick up the pieces.  Everyone experiences some hurt in their lives, but the thing that keeps me optimistic is that every single person out there is different, and though there may be heartache along the way, my life will be mainly filled with love, self-improvement, and positive memories.  There are people in war torn countries who have had their homes blown up, family members killed, and have no luxuries in life..but they stay happy..why?  After living through something like that, they begin to really value the smaller things in life because they know that no matter what, life goes on.

Life goes on in relationships too, and we have a choice to make after being hurt.  We can either sulk, try to make people feel pity for us, be depressed, and unjustly stereotype all men or all women into a category to use as an outlet for your negativity…or we can stand up, find value in all of the beauty around us, and go on with life.  The next time you smile at someone, it may be someone who eventually falls in love with your smile..then falls in love with you.

Sean

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