Kids and facebook.

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Linda wrote:


I am just wondering what you’re feeling is about kids using Facebook?  My daughter Bella is 11 and says all of her friends’ parents let them use Facebook and she feels left out because I haven’t let her use it yet.  She has a cell phone and texts, but I won’t buy a data plan for her to use Facebook or let her use it at home on our computer.  It just seems to risky to me with all of the perverts out there.  Thoughts?




I think you’re right, Linda.  In today’s world, kids (when I say kids, I mean anyone under 16)  shouldn’t be allowed to use sites like Facebook.  MAYBE at the age of 16, but not before that.  Not only does it expose them to an online world full of risks, but it also diminishes their social skills by teaching them to communicate in an impersonal manner (no direct conversation by phone or face to face).

I’ve posted articles about children and cell phones and I’m sure you know how I’m against that, so to me, Facebook takes that one step further.  Besides texting, sexting, and all of the dramas associated with children having cellphones, Facebook opens up the circle even wider and allows children to be viewed by (and even sometimes contacted by) people that may not view them in a childlike manner.  There are stories galore of adults posing as children and getting kids to send nasty pictures or arranging meetings.  I know there are also some parents out there that say it’s up to the parents to teach their child the right or wrong way to be online, and I agree..but I’d rather wait until they’ve learned more about social skills and their world around them before they are schooled in the seedy underbelly of online communication skills.

The diminished social skills is also the second point.  I posted something about the current generation of teens out in the world, and the fact that our children are next makes me want to ensure my child is a beacon of hope in a sea of bacon fat.  The teens today have such minimal social skill, that it’ll be hard for them to find (and keep) a job even with a degree.  I’d want my children to be smart AND social and able to use those skills to secure a good paying job that they enjoy and will stay with, so the last thing I want them to do is zone out online for three hours after school reading blurbs about people’s after school lives.  My daughter can use my phone for now and chat with her friends, and when she’s old enough she’ll have a phone to use at home that is her own, but as long as I have a say in it, she won’t be on Facebook until she’s in high school.