Is it just me, or does dating get harder with age? It seems like the single 30 crowd has SO many more issues than the single 20 crowd did. I’d like to think I WON’T have to settle for a total retard when the time comes to settle down, but it isn’t leaning that way.
I once compared us all to cans on a grocery store shelf. We all get our dents and drops and eventually reach our expiration date. No one’s perfect Anne, and the older we get, the more we notice this. Yes, this means you’ll have to decide if someone’s minor flaws are your major dealbreakers, but it all essentially boils down to what you want. How happy do you want to be?
In my 20’s, I dated a girl that by all definition of the word was a hardcore alcoholic. She drank and was drunk daily. She smoked pot, she had no goals in life, and she had the worst credit I’d ever known anyone to have. I dated her…why? She was hot. It didn’t last though..she and I had a falling out about a month into it and we split up. The reason I am telling you this is because what we may overlook in our 20’s, may be a bigger deal in our 30’s because we’ve refined our tastes. The issues may have always been there, we just chose to overlook them when we were younger. Now that we’re older and (hopefully) wiser, we see them sooner and are more likely to weed out those that do not fit our ideals.
Personally, I’ll never settle for less than what I want. I figure it’s taken this long to find the person I’ll spend my life with, so I’m going to make sure my choice is a good one.
I am sure you heard about the peanut allergy case in Florida that made the news, but if you hadn’t, I’ll fill you in. This girl in a school down there basically has such bad peanut allergies, all of the kids in her class must wash their hands and faces before entering the classroom every morning. It has parents in an uproar because they feel it’s creating a HUGE fuss for just one child, yet the school feels it has no other option than to accommodate this child.
My daughter has a peanut allergy and I’d have pulled her out by now if it was as bad as this girl’s. My child shouldn’t be the reason the entire class has to be extra careful..why not make an allergy class? Frankly, I think allergies are caused by parents using too many antibacterial products in the house while the child is in-womb and when they’re first born. Kids need bacteria to grow strong and when we take it away (I’m guilty too..but never again), it screws them up.
What do you think? Should the other parents be mad?
Wow, tough questions. Let me first say that there is too much emphasis on antibacterial product usage these days and you’re right in believing that the body needs bacteria to function properly. The reason so many bacteria are becoming medicine resistant is because we’ve used and abused anti-bacterial products to their extent and somewhere along the line, caused bacteria to mutate. I don’t use, and don’t want my daughter using antibacterial gels and hand sanitizers, soaps, and personal products because I want her body to live with and fight off good and bad bacteria respectively. Antibacterial products don’t discriminate against which bacteria they kill..they simply kill it all…not cool. Now, do antibacterial products cause allergies? The jury is still out on that topic. Allergies are triggered as an immune system response and while the antibacterial products DO change the body’s ability to create it’s own immune system responses, it’s too soon to tell whether or not the antibacterial products are affecting the antigen response of the human body on such a high level.
Now, about kids with allergies. Olivia’s school has several kids with severe allergies and steps have to be taken to keep them safe. It is really frustrating to me that Olivia cannot bring treats for holiday parties, can’t bring birthday snacks, and has a limited lunch list of items that she can bring. To me, the allergy kids should be at a different table or eating at a different time or I think having an allergy classroom would be a great idea, but most schools can’t afford the expense. If it were as severe as the girl you wrote about, I’d be home schooling her if I were her parent.
It’s a tough call though..I am sure some parents also feel that a public school should go to every extent to give their child the same experience as everyone else. I’d just hate to think of kids wanting to bully her later in life because of her severe allergies.