Long time reader, first time writer. I love your blog man, and I am hoping you can help me out. I recently lost a girlfriend because she said I “make all of these life plans and never follow through on them”. She basically said I am just “all talk and no action”…and she’s right. I finished high school with big plans. I was going to model and go into acting. After living in California (where we met) for 6 years and not having any luck (I guess I didn’t really try THAT hard, I thought it would just come along), I quit my day job (serving) and moved with her to her hometown in Colorado. I then went back to school for a degree in Business. It didn’t work out. My grades dropped to levels that made it impossible to get a student loan, so I quit school. I started serving again and tried a few startup projects along the way. Nothing really panned out, so I kept serving, while at the same time looking for my big break.
It’s been 10 years since I graduated high school and 8 years since I met my (now) ex. I have no degree, no idea what I want to do with my life, and now, no girlfriend to share it with. I would really like to think I’ll make it big someday in the acting world, but my hopes are fading. I don’t know what to do. What do you think I should do?
I have a friend that has said, “Some dreams just refuse to die..”. To that, I say, maybe it’s time to euthanize them. You tried to “make it big” and it didn’t pan out. You tried a degree and it didn’t pan out. How many times are you going to let yourself fail before you buckle down and really see something through? Forget serving, forget business, just find what you REALLY want to do and do it.
I will bet anything that your girlfriend got tired of you not being true to your word. If you say you’re going to do something then do it. It can be as simple as taking out the trash or as demanding as finding your career…if you say you’re going to do something and you are constantly not following through, you become a burden for others. Chances are, she was sick of hearing you complain about how you weren’t “having any luck” (it takes work and not luck, BTW) and she saw you constantly letting yourself down until one day, she couldn’t take in any longer.
See something through. If you want to be an actor, find an agent, get into shape, and get your ass into a gig. Audition like hell and go for anything you can. It may start small, and you may need some work, but get it done and stop making excuses as to why you can’t do something. If you get some gigs and really improve your abilities, it may turn into something great..and it may not. At least you can say you were an actor. I wanted to be a radio DJ in a major market and I worked my ass off to see that it happened. I did it. After 6 years, I moved on, but I can at least say that I accomplished my goal. Don’t you want to be able to say the same thing?