The friend just really seems self-centered. Why should Rhonda end the friendship because her friend is self-centered? I don’t get it. Can’t people be different?
I am sure most people would agree when I say there is very little room for being self-centered in any sort of relationship. If you’re constantly overlooking commitments or the needs of people other than yourself, you’re a burden..plain and simple. I have very little tolerance for self-centered people and people that don’t follow through on commitments, because it’s a waste of time to constantly have to babysit them for the sake of friendship. Now, you may say THAT is self-centered, but if you look at it from the perspective of me wanting to spend time with people that want to spend time with me (and seeing the self-centered people are simply wasting that time), then it’s not self-centered at all. My time isn’t ME time..it’s WE time, almost all of the time.
And again, I am not saying to take the first chance to throw away friendship. If there is something larger here (like depression), then a real friend will help see the other friend through.