I read your “OKFRIENDLY” post the other day and felt the need to write. I consider myself a strong Christian man and I am also an online dater. I feel like Melissa Ann did but in a different fashion. I state that I am looking for a strong Christian with even stronger morals and ideals and I get contacted by everyone BUT those types. Even those that say they are Christian do things like drinking and listening to rock music, which is a huge turnoff in my book. Am I doing something wrong? I feel you were right in a way for Melissa Ann, but am I also a “moron” for wanting to find a Christian on a dating site?
You’re not a moron. I think the OkFriendly post was a bit different because MA was going on the DATING site looking for friends, where you are on a dating site looking to date. The issue here is that your Christian ideals may be a little too strict for most. I know plenty Christians that are strong and steadfast in their faith and ideals, but they listen to rock music and some even drink. Now, this may be a big deal to you, but it isn’t to them, and I don’t think either of you are in the wrong for your actions.
That’s the beauty of life. We can let people be what they want, let them believe what they want, and (as long as these things don’t hurt anyone mentally or physically) even do what they want. You should realize that this strict framing of what you’re looking for may severely limit your dating pool on a mass-appeal dating site though, and you could even think about trying a Christian based dating company like E-Harmony or ChristianMingle.com to find something more along the line of what you’re looking for. Look around and find the best site for your needs.