Never Alone

ForeverAlone wrote:

Minnesodad,
I am new to your site but I am hoping you can help.  I think I am cursed to be forever alone.  I am 19, almost 20, and I have only had two serious relationships, but I have been unlucky and single for a year now.  No one wants to be with me.  Am I going to just have a string of one night stands for my entire life?

ForeverAlone

ForeverAlone,

Welcome to my site.  You should know I keep it honest around here.  That said, you’re young and quite naïve if you think you should find “the one” by 19.

First, it is healthy to be alone once in awhile.  You should NEVER jump from one relationship to another.  Doing so just increases the chance of failure because you haven’t given yourself time to grow emotionally from the last one.

Secondly, if you’re just sleeping with people and hoping it gets serious, you’re flat out an idiot and no one wants to date the woman that just sleeps with every guy she meets. Build the relationship before intimacy and you will have a firmer foundation.  It seems like the younger generation today is quick to physical and rushing to love, then surprised when things go wrong.  Don’t rush things.  A relationship is like a nice rack of ribs…the good ones take time as well as the right ingredients.

Relax.  Enjoy being alone.  Work on yourself. If you hit 33 and you haven’t had a serious relationship, email me and I will apologize for bad advice.  I am guessing you will find the right guy before that.

Sean

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Don’t get offended..

Anonymous wrote:

Sean,
I am offended that you promote supplements and talk about health in the same posting.  I feel the only way to live a healthy life is to be free of man made products and the fact you feel supplements are “healthy” is disturbing.  There is not one supplement out there that has not been man made.  Shame on you. Healthy is truely healthy.

Anonymous

Anonymous,
Do you mean to tell me my pink colored Ubervita RocT preworkout doesn’t get harvested from a mountain top?  Damn.

First off, you’re right.  Supplements are man made…but it doesn’t mean they are bad (to everyone but you).  Some are very artificial, but many, if not most, strive to put natural ingredients into what they make and supplements as a whole help us live better and healthier lives.

(To clarify this next part up front, I am not talking about racial/sexual/gender discrimination here…I think discussion is always good on those topics to further a unified understanding. You don’t have to like it, you just need to understand it.)

Secondly, I don’t really care if you’re offended.  If seems today like everyone wants everyone else to change when they feel offended.  I say screw that.  People are increasingly wanting the things they say, hear, and do to be “their way” or they get offended.  If you don’t like people eating meat, don’t go where people eat meat.  If you don’t like people wearing fur, stay away from them.  If you don’t like a restaurant’s way of sourcing their food, don’t go there.

Life isn’t a Subway sandwich.  Sometimes, you just get what you get, whether you like it or not.  If you don’t like what you see, hear, or do, don’t be a part of it. You may be offended by this, but in today’s world , our opinion is better understood by where we choose to spend your money than where we complain.

Congratulations on your non-man-made material life.  No cereal, no milk, no chips, no bars, no beer or wine, no deodorant, no bedsheets, no house.  Its all man made, so I imagine you avoid them..and it has all made you a very productive member of society if you troll websites just to spout off your opinion.

Life is better spent enjoying the things we love than complaining about the things we hate.

Sean

Supplement Review: Six Nutrition

Six Nutrition sent some supplements to review and I have to say, they were amazing.  I sampled their Hydra hydration drinks, their Energy supplement, their Mela-Luna Sleep Supplement, and the multi-vitamins for Men.

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I started with Hydra, the hydration drinks (both flavors).  These aren’t your typical taste-like-garbage-even-though-it’s-good-for-you drink and they aren’t your sugar-laden Gatorade either.  Razor Raspberry is the energy blend with yerba mate, green tea caffeine, and Vitamin B. The flavor is the best raspberry flavored drink I’ve tried and it is light and easy to drink.  Tropical Staredown is the focus blend and it was my favorite of the two.  It’s also not a syrupy or heavy drink and it has Siberian Ginseng, yerba mate, and ginko biloba to help maintain focus.  You don’t have to be a weightlifter or hardcore athlete to benefit from these products either..they are great for anyone to use anytime.  Did I mention they have zero sugar and only 5 calories per serving?  Yeah!  This is definitely one hydration drink worth checking out.

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I tried the sleep formula (my leg issues are nothing to laugh at…I have to do what I can) for a few evenings and it was also a great experience.  Not only is it gluten free and paleo friendly, it also really works well.  In fact, I haven’t found a better night’s sleep with any other supplement.The mix of melatonin and B6 comes in a quick dissolving orange flavored tiny pill.  Who knew a solid night’s sleep could come in the form of something so tiny?

The energy supplement was more than I expected as well.  It is a zero calorie capsule of guarana, green tea, kelp, ginger root, and grape seed extract blended with 18 probiotics.  It’s a perfect way to have steady energy just by improving metabolism.  It doesn’t make you jittery, there is no crash, just pure, regular, day-long energy.

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Finally, the Men’s multi-vitamin provided everything I’d been looking for in a vitamin.  This multi isn’t just a bunch of stuff thrown together in the hopes of improving someone’s health…it is designed by matching vitamins to six main areas: Heart (Co Q-10/Arginine/Folic Acid/Vitamin D), Joint (Glucosamine/Vitamin E/Vitamin D/Olive Oil/Astaxanthin-my favorite anti-inflammatory that can also benefit your eyes and brain), Energy (the energy blend from above), Muscles (Arginine/Astaxanthin/Folic Acid/Glutamine), Mind (electrolytes/B Vitamins/Green Tea extract) and Sexual Health (Saw Palmetto/Arginine/Pumpkin Seed/Pygeum Africanum Bark which helps the kidneys and prostate).  Add these to a multivitamin that is packed with the vitamins and minerals your body needs and you have one incredible multi.  I am hooked.  I still have another multi that I was (yes…was) taking before Six Nutrition came along and I won’t be going back.

Six Nutrition isn’t just for men either.  There is a women’s multi, women’s arginine, and omega-3 capsules (for anyone) as well.  Six Nutrition is really about complete nutritional approach.  You can check them out here.   I am certainly glad I tried Six Nutrition…I know you will be too.

New format/5 years!

So due to errors on the backend side of the site, I’ve had to change my format yet again.  Since I’m making another change, I’ve also decided to combine it with the kick off for my 5th year of Minnesodad!

Yes, it’s been 5 whole years, and I hope you’ve enjoyed every post (or at least a few).

Here are some interesting facts about the last 5 years of Minnesodad:

Interesting facts:

*Olivia was 5 (almost 6) when I started.  She’s grown 15 inches since then.

*13,000 visitors were from the US last year.  Well over 14000 in total.
*None from China the Congo, or Chad.  Rats.  What is it with the C countries? Chile’s viewing Minnesodad..don’t you others want to be like Chile?
*Highest US state for viewing was Alaska.  I’m making that up.  People have better things to do in Alaska than view my blog..staying warm is probably one of them.
*Namibia had one person check out the blog.  Apparently the only guy in Namibia with internet likes my blog.
*Idaho.  Someone there probably viewed my blog, but I can’t see to that level, so I just said Idaho to get someone in Idaho to view this.  I’ll even tag #Idaho below.  Potato.
*When I started this blog, I was 262lbs (2009).  I dropped down to 207 and went back up to 240.  I am 230 now and dropping again.  I went from chubby to thin (no muscle), to bulky (muscle and creatine bloat), and I’m on the way to cut and lean.  It’s been interesting to see the changes.
*I’ve had 3 of the four big cellphone providers while doing this blog.
*I’ve been through 7 pairs of gym shoes while doing this blog.
*I’ve run/treadmilled/rowed approximately 1700 miles since starting my blog.
*I’ve gone from “at least a pop or sugary beverage a day habit” to coffee, water, milk, and the occasional energy drink.  Drinking periods not counted…love my Lost Island rum and coke and a good martini.
*I’ve consumed about 180lbs of protein powder since starting this blog. That may seem like a ton, but believe me, it’s light.
*I’ve spent around 600 hours at the gym since starting this blog.  I’ve also been a member of 4 gyms during this time.
I’ve met so many new people, made so many great friends, and had some great adventures along the way.  I’m glad you could join me for a few.  Stick around..there is more to come.
Sean

5 years strong

Just an update, I am coming up on 5 years with the blog.  I started at Blogspot before moving here (and changing the name to Minnesodad) and I have been going strong ever since.

I started with mainly editorials and advice, but I’ve expanded the features on Minnesodad to include recipes, restaurant reviews, supplement reviews, and tech and food reviews as well.  With the way things are going, I can see some good things for the future.

The blog also included some heartbreak early on, but after 5 years, I’ve found the right woman and am happily married.  The posts have slowed down a bit as I adjust my life to the married side of things.  I’ve also started a re-re-transformation of my physical self and, along with my wife, have started to tear things up at the gym. I should have some good posts coming on that topic soon.

Some of you have been with me since day one, and I certainly appreciate all of your support and attention.  It’s people like you that have made this blog what it is.  If you’re new here (72 countries are now reading my blog), I’d like to welcome you and I’d encourage you to read back through all of the older blog posts to get caught up.  Whether you’re a noob or a veteran, I’d encourage you to comment on any post you’d like, to email me whatever you’d like, and to suggest things you hope to see on the blog.  After all, I am here for you..and because of you.

Thanks again!

More to come!

Sean

My Christmas Wish for you.

I’d personally love to buy all of my readers a tablet, but, seeing as how no tablet maker could afford to give away that many tablets, I’m giving you a “wish” instead.

My wish for you:

When a celebrity, sports figure, or some random person on the internet decides to speak their opinion (and assuming the opinion isn’t directly hateful or threatening), my wish for you is that you simply refuse to “give a sh*t” about it.  If a religious nutjob wants to misquote scripture, let him look like an idiot.  If a senator wants to Tweet his “I’m sexy” mirror-pic, don’t look at the pic.  If a celeb rants about how stupid something is, let it go.

2013 is the year that everything became a massive e-backlash.  People all across the internet became enraged at things that didn’t even happen to them directly.  They started boycott campaigns, they participated in hateful email campaigns, and they simply put their nose in where it didn’t belong.  It’s not our fault as citizens of Earth to right everyone’s wrongs.  If someone makes a mistake, it doesn’t need to be news (there are WAY more important things out there).  If it didn’t happen TO YOU DIRECTLY, take all of that time you’re spending getting upset and composing a nasty email and put the energy into something positive and productive.

We all want to be involved in things, I get that..but if our involvement is simply to jump on a bandwagon of negativity and hatred, we should all be taking a good hard look in the mirror and figuring out why we feel the need to be a part of things like that.

Take this into 2014.  Stop making “flaps” about everything and just let idiots be idiots.  Quit making everything a bigger deal than it should be.

Sean

P.S.  If you’re looking for a gift for me, the Amazon Wishlist is above..otherwise, I need more K-Cups for my Kuerig and some Deschutes Chainbreaker beer.  🙂

Things

Sorry for the lack of posts everyone, we are just starting the week of our wedding today and have been quite busy.  With the wedding and honeymoon less than a week away, I will post a few when I can..and I may even post random pictures of the big day after things settle down.

Stay tuned!

New Tab at the Top

So I finally gave in and added a tab at the top of the reader screen (next to the “Home” and “About Minnesodad” Tabs).  It’s my Amazon wishlist.  Over the years, various people have offered to buy me gifts and things for birthdays, holidays, celebrations, etc., and with the upcoming wedding, I thought I’d add this for anyone wishing to send me anything now or in the future.  None of you ever HAVE to buy me anything or donate any money via the PayPal button on the right side, but if you do, I’ll thank you publicly for your generosity.  My friends and family have the wedding registries to work from, so this one is for the non-family/friend readers.

To those of you that have offered gifts over the years, I’m sorry I didn’t have a list planned out.  I’m a hard guy to buy for. I rarely think I NEED anything until I actually need it.  I’m working on that.  Putting THIS list together took almost two weeks.

Thanks for reading,  more to come.

Sean

Look kids, there’s Big Ben!

Sometimes when couples face conflict, they may feel like the Griswolds, trapped in a constant circle with no obvious way out.  As frustrating as it may seem, they may often the cause of their own frustration.

In the clip, Clark enters the roundabout and is instantly pointing out the external distractions rather than focusing on getting through the roundabout.  As more cars enter and leave the roundabout, Clark panics and keeps making the same mistake over and over again, which keeps him circling the roundabout until it appears as if he may go insane.  You’ll notice he keeps mentioning Big Ben, which (subconsciously) seems to be his distraction and his downfall.

This can often be what conflict in a relationship feels like too. We enter a conflict and constantly circle past it..then back to it…then past it..then back to it.  Rather than focusing on the issue, we let external distractions take away our focus until we panic and circle back to the issue at hand.

Rather than circling a roundabout of conflict, we should attempt to enter the conflict with a clear goal in mind.  The goal isn’t “to be right” or “to win”, the goal of entering the conflict should be to understand the other person and find a way to make things work for both people involved.  Keep focused on the issue, tackle one issue at a time (don’t say things like “you also..”, “another thing..”, etc.,), and make sure you eliminate distractions until the conflict is resolved.

Roundabouts aren’t a difficult obstacle in real life driving.  Don’t let them become a difficult obstacle in your relationship.

Sean

Change in the cushions

Well, my fiancee and I moved into our new house.  It was a tough move in 90 degree heat, but we made it (a big thanks to everyone that helped)!  We’re settling in and unpacking and soon it’ll feel like home.  The house isn’t perfect, but it’s what we wanted, and in time, it’ll feel like the best decision we have made together.

The same thing can be said for marriage.  No one is perfect but if we’re willing to accept that, we’ll always feel like marriage was a good decision.  Marriage professionals say that 69% percent of disagreements are repeated throughout a relationship but it should never define a relationship.  If there is an issue, acknowledge it and talk it through.  Love doesn’t have to be overwhelmed by not seeing eye to eye if you can deal with issues as they arise, in the following ways:

1.  Respect each other.  No name calling, no subtle emotional jabs, no disowning someone else’s feelings.  You also need to respect yourself.

2.  Remember your “needs bucket” and “wants bucket”.  These are often combined into one indistinguishable idea, when in reality, they should always be two distinct viewpoints.  Do you NEED a $700 TV to complete the living room or is it a want?  Do you NEED to have DVD’s alphabetized or is it a want?  Figure out your two buckets and realize that your partner has them too.  Communicate down to the last detail about these.

3.  Learn that a difference isn’t negative.  In marriage, you’ll be sharing a life with someone that has a totally different life experience than you.  Neither experience is right, they’re just different.  Marriage is simply a million ways of handling different life experiences and sharing love with someone as you work them through.  It’s not the differences that matter, it’s how you work through them that counts.

4.  Change should be left in the couch cushions.  If you’re entering a marriage in an attempt to change someone, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons.  We should never attempt to change someone’s differences…instead, we should seek to understand them and appreciate them for what they are, then come together as one.

5.  The only control should be a remote for the TV.  No one controls a relationship.  Both sides work hard to make sure the other person is happy instead of being a push/pull situation.  When a couple communicates, when they share their feelings, when the express themselves in a constructive manner, and when they love each other enough to realize that differences are simply part of life, they will be successful in whatever they encounter.

Okay, back to unpacking..

Sean