Reese wrote:

I’m a bit put off by all of the commitment phobic men out there.  It seems as if they all want their cake and the ability to eat it too.  Women aren’t helping either by just giving in to commitment free sex, so my question for you is:  Is this where society is headed?



No, it’s not where society is headed.  A few million people messed it up for the rest of us.  You seem to have had trouble with men as of late?  I assume that because you seem to think men are the ones initiating the commitment-phobia when I know plenty of women that are also afraid to settle in to a normal committed relationship.  Both sides use work, gym time, past relationships, schedules, etc., to keep the other at bay and it sucks, but all in all, if you were interested in seeing someone, you’d take whatever time you could with them and you’d give the same in return.   Sure hookups may be fun, and it may be interesting for a bit to not be bound by any borders, but would you really want to go through the rest of your life going to sleep knowing the person next to you has no long term interest in your happiness?  I sure wouldn’t.

I feel you’ve got a good head on your shoulders.  You’ve managed to be an “adult” in a dating world of  “children”.  If you’re thinking long term and you’ve set yourself on looking for commitment, you’re not alone.  There are good people out there that want the same.  The rest will either wise up or fade away.  Good luck in finding mister right.